Урок №157. 5 Ways to Always Be the Most Interesting Person in the Room. Part 2
Автор портала Muse Аманда Берлин перечислила по пунктам факторы, которые позволят вам находится в центре внимания, в этом уроке рассмотрим третий, четвертый и пятый.
3. Be Inclusive
Being the mean girl, or guy, in order to be cool is passe (фр. немодный, устаревший). We can either undercut (наносить удар в спину) each other or we can support each other. You can guess which garners better results in building influence.
How to be inclusive (объединяющий, собирающий)? See someone milling about (кружить вокруг, топтаться без дела, слоняться), drink in hand, looking for someone to talk to? Don»t ignore this person and stay happy in the safety of your circle. Ask if he»d like to join you and integrate him into the conversation by relaying something you just learned about the person you were talking to. (This also shows you were listening, which is another tactic for seeming interesting to others. Be a good listener.)
4. Be Brave
According to Vanessa Van Edwards, founder of The Science of People, our fear of being different makes us boring. But watch what happens when you are open and vulnerable, silly, maybe even a little bit weird. When you»re brave and open enough to be yourself, you»ll often find people will be attracted to and interested in you. And, worst case, if they don»t flock to (стекаться, валить толпой) you, you»ll at least leave the interaction knowing you weren»t being fake.
How to be brave? Putting the interaction in context can help you muster the courage to be yourself. Remember, we all have our flaws; we»re all vulnerable in some way. And, remember what»s at stake—usually not a whole lot—so have the courage to be your interesting self, share an interesting experience, and talk of things you»re passionate about.
5. Be Interested
Dale Carnegie famously said, «To be interesting, be interested.» A study published in 2010 in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology found that people who engaged in a debate with a partner online rated the partner more favorably if they received a question from that partner as opposed to participants whose partners asked no questions and exhibited no interest in their viewpoint. Participants who received a question said they»d be more willing to engage with their counterpart in the future.
How to be interested? Ask questions, listen closely, ask more questions. Engage people in talking about their passions. If you know nothing about which they speak, even better. Ask more questions. (Be humble! And, curious!) If you already know about the topic at hand (текущий), that»s another great way to form a connection.
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- Participants who received a question said they»d be more willing to engage their counterpart in the future.
- Have the courage to be your interesting self, share an interesting experience, and talk things you»re passionate .
- See someone milling about, drink in hand, looking for someone to talk .